Talking to Strangers

My wife has never been shy about striking up a conversation with complete strangers. This is a habit that is mortifying to me. When I was a young child and my mother instructed me to be cautious about talking to strangers, she was preaching to the choir.

Life has been hectic as of late, so today we ventured out on a day trip to the Outer Banks. Naturally, we took the ferry. Just as naturally, my wife spoke to many people whom she did not know. Extroverts must have a secret signal that indicates they are available for a chat. Maybe it is a sixth sense, I don't know. But by some strange coincidence, to me anyway, each of those people seemed perfectly happy to engage in a dialogue with strangers. I must confess that I have never sustained any personal injury from any of these numerous experiences.
   

The irony of all this is that despite my predisposition to keep to myself among strangers, I generally find myself enjoying the exchange once I get over the initial shock. I suspect it is much the same as skydiving. Jumping out of the plane may take some serious willpower, but the rest of the trip is probably pretty exhilarating.
   

The outcome of today's adventure resulted in our meeting a neighbor of eleven years, who lives one quarter of a mile from us! That is embarrassing. We also met a photographer and a young couple on their one year anniversary. Among several others, we also had a delightful, and protracted, conversation with a German family that is here on vacation. The language barrier was only a minor issue.


So where am I going with this? Only this: I am convinced that people were created with the fundamental need for community. And sometimes we just need to put aside all other busyness to just go and directly interact with other people.


The second irony to this is that I am sharing this with you via a very impersonal form of communication. Go figure. Have we all lost our minds? I am determined to be more directly involved with the people in my life.      

An Introvert's Favorite Nightmare

As a firmly established member of the International Brotherhood of Introverts*, I have received something that sends simultaneous yet conflicting chills down my spine. I got a fan letter! The horrors and pleasures collide in my head! I truly love to write and tell stories, but the loss of anonymity is unsettling. It is exciting that people enjoy the story, but someone has peered behind the pen. Months ago I began a simple blog for the day when someone outside the family would read my books, and now I introduce it as if I was answering a judge. Well friends, I hope I can bring some joy into your life with all this.
So now I introduce to you ... my first (and only) fan letter!
The Fans Speak
RV
 

*International Brotherhood of Introverts is a non-organization that has numerous anonymous members who never meet.  

My 1st Fan Letter!

Dear Ryan,
Thank you so much for the “fan” letter. It was both touching and amusing at the same time.
I had never given thought to having an apprentice. In truth, I never considered I had anything worth offering. That said, I could probably teach you about boat building.
On the subject of being a father, raising children to be adults is unquestionably a team effort with their mother. For my part, I basically fumbled through life trying to figure that one out. With an excellent father of my own, a supportive church family, and nearly thirty years experience at fathering, I'm still not sure I actually did anything right. But evidently the Lord had pity on my (our) feeble attempts and blessed the outcome.
With regard to writing, your letter indicates to me that you have all the qualities necessary to be a writer. You also have made some amazing and unique contributions to your community. I have never heard of anyone else successfully protecting sailors from being accosted by sea-vampires, mermaids, or wear-whales! I wasn't even aware of the existence of some of those dreadful creatures! That's some good stuff there!
I highly recommend you start some sort of blog to archive those ingenious anecdotes and share them with the rest of the world. Please keep in touch and stop in any time you can.
Thank you again for the encouraging words and subsequent conversations. You have certainly enriched my life. Oh, and yes, my mother is amazing as you surmised.
Sincerely.
RV

The Paradox of Non-Fiction

One may discover there is more truth in a fiction story than in some documentaries.
This seems to reflect negatively on "non-fiction" writers. But, perhaps it is the fiction writer's inability to leave reality behind that is the actual culprit. Or, maybe sometimes we simply expect too much from our fellow mortals.
Well, I'm sure glad that has been put to rest. Now we can move on to greater things with which to occupy or minds. No, wait. I'm sorry, but I do expect non-fiction to be as honest as it can be translated into words.  Okay, now we can move on.